Posts Tagged ‘Parenting’

Mountains of Sandwiches

Thursday, June 10th, 2010

by Michele Reiner

Recently, my son’s kindergarten class learned about hunger.

They discussed what it might be like without enough food (bad) and how they could help (share lunches).

Tying the lesson to both academics and ‘doing good’ the teachers asked that students earn money at home doing special chores and join together to make a contribution to an organization focused on ending hunger.

The kids also made graphs and charts showing who did what to raise money and contrasted their results.

I was glad they did this.

In addition to fundraising though, I wanted my son to do some hands-on service.

I wasn’t sure what, so I began at Pebble Tossers for some inspiration and links to projects kids can do.

After exploring I found the Open Door Community; literally a place we drive by almost every day.

What I learned was they are a residential community dismantling racism, sexism and heterosexism through loving relationships with some of the most neglected – the homeless and those in prisons.

While they do so much, what clicked was that every day they serve 400 sandwiches.

I told my son about this place and asked him “What can we do?”

He decided we could make 200 sandwiches ourselves.

After further discussion though, we thought that if we got friends to join we could do the whole 400!

I must say we were really pumped up.

I sent a note out to nine other kids in his class inviting them to join us.

Given the pace of most people’s lives, I assumed we’d get a few participants.

Amazingly every single family said yes.

With siblings, parents, bread and meat in tow, we joined together one Saturday to make sandwiches.

It was a great morning.

The kids truly did the bulk of the service and were excited to track their progress.

The final tally – over 430 sandwiches!

The next day we dropped off the sandwiches.

There we met James, who greeted the children with joy and gave them more kudos than we could imagine.

He invited us to make sandwiches in their kitchen next time.

As we drove away I reflected aloud on how James referred to the people who’d eat the sandwiches as ‘friends’.

He made a point of it many times over and told us that this is what we should do as well.

His point, well taken, was that we served these people as we would our friends; inviting them into the Open Door Community and giving them what we would anyone who was hungry in our presence.

I talked about how important words can be and left it at that.

A week later my son, the consummate builder, found a really cool spot under a tree in the park.

He excitedly rushed to tell me about the clubhouse he wanted to build there.

He ran through the plans with a vision shining in his head of what he could do.

Then he stopped and said, “You know what it could be, mommy?

It could be a house for our friends”. He looked pointedly at me again and said, “You know mom, our friends”.

I think he gets it.

Michele Reiner is a consultant who provides strategy, action and results to her clients and is currently developing HandsOn Network’s role in the Cities of Service movement.

Finding Your Houses of Parliament

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

My mother painted the Houses of Parliament in the basement of our century home. Early on a Saturday morning, years ago now, I heard her toiling away in the rather unattractive and unwelcoming basement.

When I crept down the stairs, I found her in London; a London she had painted on 10-foot panels of foam board for a small community theater bereft of funds.  For many children, this moment might have been odd. For me, it was rather normal.

My mother was always doing something odd for someone and doing that something for free. The “doing things for people” sat fine with me. However, the “for free” part, as a teenager scrounging for every dollar I could squeeze out of a part time job, that part confounded me.

With Mother’s Day upon us, I was thinking about how that confusion transformed into a most cherished clarity… and it happened like this:

Time and time again, there she would be, painting detailed scenery, serving on boards, creating educational programming for community centers, visiting senior citizens we weren’t related to…. and all for nothing.

At least I thought it was for nothing. Little did I know how those lessons of selflessness and service were slowly, with a kind of genetic osmosis, seeping their way into my DNA.

What resulted from her silent, illustrative appreciation for service was a deeper understanding of my place and role on this earth. She showed me that either I could choose to be a cog in a mechanism for good, or I could be a sabot wedged into those cogs, merely slowing progress.

At first blush, aspiring to be just a “cog” may seem downright uninspiring, undistinguished….and well, kind of lazy.  But my mother’s actions spoke volumes on just the opposite of those terms. Her life was, and still is to this day, about an understanding of, and acting on, the belief that we are all connected. It is an understanding that everyone is a “cog;” no more, or less important than the next. That we should be working for something far greater than the total square footage of our homes, or the price tag of our cars.

Being a “cog” in the mechanism for good is the most important role we can play in life. That’s not to say we don’t pursue or own goals. We can strive to become CEOs or the best landscaper in the business, but how we get to those goals collectively defines us as a society.

As we work towards our goals, are we also looking for ways to be of service to others? In doing so, remember that each little act of help, each hour of service, oils the cogs and keeps that mechanism for good running smoothly.

I am proud to say I am just a cog, because I understand the fact that there’s really no “just” about it. My life is not just about me; I am no more, and no less, important than anyone else.  What is important is how I choose to live my life.

What is important is that we all look for ways to be cogs in a mechanism for good. What is important is that we all continually seek out our own Houses of Parliament, and paint them with as much passion, with as much care, and with as much importance as my mother did in the basement of our century home.